3/25/2017 0 Comments Parenting![]() This week we discussed parenting. And although it was a very insightful discussion, I want to discuss more fully what I have learned in the actual parenting class I am taking this semester. I know it sounds a little strange that I'm taking a parenting class, because I'm single, and definitely don't plan on having a child anytime soon. However, this class has taught me more than most classes I have taken. You see, in the world we live in, we are all focused about behaviors. For example, and no offense to any parents, most of the posts you read on Facebook include something like, "My child is doing this, how do I get them to stop?" Don't get me wrong, I like it when children behave, but there is something much deeper than behavior that we should be worried about. Parenting is about teaching. You see, it seems awfully difficult sometimes, but each child is an individual person with their own thoughts, feelings, needs, etc. I, myself, am guilty of seeing others merely as objects in my way, who do not matter as much as I do. Which is selfish, I know. But if you are a parent, think about how you see your child on a regular basis.. And if you are not a parent, think of a loved one or family member.. Now, when this child or person does something that you don't agree with, you try to fix their actions, right? But, how much more efficient would parenting be, if instead, we focus on their understanding and feelings? In order to understand others feelings, you first need to understand your own. You need to know how you are feeling towards yourself, and also towards the other person. Otherwise, some bias, or hard feelings may be involved. The book The Anatomy of Peace, calls this having a heart at war or a heart at peace. It is up to you where you put yourself. Now, as you are at peace with yourself and others, you can more fully teach others and help them without making or forcing them to do anything. As shown with this pyramid, you have to start at your personal way of being and then work your way up to correcting your children's actions. I would love to relay everything I have learned in this class, but it wouldn't do it justice. To sum up what I have taken from this, is that you should treat your child as you would like to be treated. You need to give them options, teach them, and help them, in a way that teaches them intrinsic motivation. Overall, a parent's responsibility is "to protect and prepare our children to survive and thrive in the world in which they will live." So, if you truly want to help your child survive and thrive, create a solid relationship with them, teach them truths, and give them the agency to follow those truths. If you are having problems with behaviors, find the best ways to teach children, but avoid putting your force on them. Let them learn lessons naturally unless it is too dangerous, affects someone else, or they can't learn from the consequence until too far in the future. If you are looking for some parenting books, let me recommend the three books that have taught me a lot: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, The Anatomy of Peace, and Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason. If you have any thoughts, comments, or opinions, leave a comment below!
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